CJ Butler

Narcissism is an easy thing to get obsessed with if you’ve been a victim of it.  It’s something which happens quietly, encroaching all around you gradually; victims can be blind to it at first – often for a long time.  The push-pull of a narcissistic regime can have a person addicted and confused, often even protective of their abuser, simply not recognizing it for what it is.  Probably you had no idea he or she was a narcissist, and they certainly don’t know it – infact they will vehemently deny it.  Narcissists are clever; their behaviours are compulsive, to extract what they need from those around them to feed the hole within themselves, sadly for them, a hole which will never be filled by anyone.  They will criticize and belittle you, and then appear to love and adore you, before knocking you from the pedestal once again and deriding you afresh, and all the while making it feel like it’s your fault, and you’re the one who’s being difficult, eating away at your feelings of se

" It’s that connection we all yearn for, in the  lonesomeness of the duality of this life " What is your experience of loneliness?  It can be fleeting; maybe just the occasional unaccompanied evening, or it can be intense and drawn out, triggered by events like a relationship break-up, moving to a new city, or as children fly the nest.  It can be felt alone or when surrounded by people.  For some, loneliness is a default position, a protective state created by the ego – our thoughts and beliefs - to protect us from the hurts of the world.  In my first blog, I wanted to introduce The Japson Club’s lead character, and long-established loner; Anna.  Emotionally withdrawn, she doesn’t share much of herself with anyone, her passage through life is with a sense of necessary isolation from those around her.           " She was a lone vessel and always had been " And just through from a relationship break up, Anna is restless, the turbulence of emotio